Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Global Search for Missing 4 Year Old Australian Child - Andrew John THOMPSON

Dear Mike

Many thanks for joining the global search for Andrew.

Although Melinda and Andrew flew to Frankfurt, investigations conducted by the German authorities have so far failed to find any trace of them and they could now have left that country.

This is why I'm now asking people to send the following email to as many people as possible in as many countries as possible (including Germany if (possible)along with a request that those people send it to as many people as possible, etc.

It doesn't matter if people send many emails or one email, the important thing is that they all send it to someone else. One person in Sydney sent only one email but it went to a person in the US whose company then sent it to 10,000 people around the world.

I've also attached some material that has been translated into German and Spanish as well as a photo of a bus-shelter poster that is part of a UK campaign. Andrew is in the bottom left corner.
I'm expecting several more translations to arrive in the next few days and I will let you know when they arrive.

This is the email.....

Join the Global Search for Missing Australian Child - Andrew John

Four-year-old Andrew John THOMPSON was illegally abducted from Australia on 24th April 2008 and has since disappeared without trace.

Andrew is at grave risk of emotional and physical harm. In addition to an extensive search that has been underway by international authorites for several months, an international multi-media campaign has now been launched to help the authorities find him as quickly as possible.

The following link takes you to a poster that contains links to a flyer that can be downloaded and printed. It also includes suggestions for displaying the flyer in public places. Please print this poster and display it wherever possible no matter what country you are in.

This next link will take you to a missing person website containing more information and photos of Andrew and his mother Melinda Margaret THOMPSON (who could also be using the name Melinda Margaret STRATTON).

A Facebook site has been established for Andrew and can be accessed at

The next link will take you to an article published in the Daily Telegraph in Sydney (Australia) on 13th December 2008. A video interview with Andrew's father is also contained within the article.,22049,24791815-5006009,00.html

Please forward this email to as many people as possible and ask them to pass it on to as many people as possible as well. Ask them to use the flyers to raise awareness about Andrew in their local areas in as many countries as possible.


Many thanks from Andrew's Dad, and Andrew.
ken thompson
---> Remove (nospam) to contact Ken directly if you have information on Andrew's whereabouts)

Email to Fathers 4 Justice Canada, Jeremy Swanson, F4J Global

Would you pass the above information along to your contacts across the globe to draw awareness to the kidnapping of Mr. Thompson's son. I will post the updated information in my blogs. The video link to the Australian program "A Current affair" is best viewed via the facebook link following:

This is a pass through link to MSN video and the Ozzy TV network. If you aren't on facebook try the direct link below.

Another important element to this tragic occurrence and Mr. Thompson's attempts to find his son is the strategic campaign to find him. It can be used as a template for any of us if our children are taken. I know how he feels as do many of you and I once lost my two youngest for 7 months. It is the most excruciating agony a parent could suffer.

If you are not familiar with the story viewing the video will give you a quick overview.

Mke Murphy
F4J Sault Ste. Marie

My own experience shows the parent who does the kidnapping will also be alienating the child. Standard things the kidnapper will cite is "Daddy doesn't care about you", "Mommy is afraid of daddy hurting them both" and the list goes on. It is despicable and narcissistic behaviour and can leave life long damage to the psyche of this child. The sooner he is found the better his chances of renewing his relationship, in a positive way, with his dad and hopefully allowing the mother to be involved in some manner, albeit cautiously for a time, because I firmly believe with passion a child needs both parents in their lives, if both are fit. Andrew's mom will have to demonstrate this.

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Alienated Father asks judge to deliver christmas presents

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Alienated Father asks judge to deliver christmas presents

Donald Tenn of Sacramento, California is taking creative measures to ensure his Christmas gifts are delivered to his daughter in Moultrie County, Illinois.

He is asking Illinois Judge Flannell, who refuses to enforce his California visitation orders, to make the delivery for him.

Donald's partner, Shannon Phillips took their daughter 2,089 miles away to visit family in Illinois. She never returned.

Using his daughter as collateral, Phillips asked Tenn to move their small family to Illinois. His insistence that the family home was in Sacramento, where the pair has agreed to conceive and raise their child, was met with allegations of domestic violence, and the resulting restraining order.

Despite Tenn's unrelenting efforts, and new legal orders from California
that demand he have visitation with his daughter, Phillips has only permitted one time in two years.

Illinois states attorney, Marvin Hanson, refuses to intervene on Tenn's behalf. Meanwhile, Phillips actions are endorsed by her patron, Dove Inc., a religious organization that generates revenue from the Violence Against Women Act.

Federal taxpayer dollars have funded
the alienation of Madison from her father based on nothing but arbitrary emotions and opinions. The judiciary of Illinois has done nothing to protect Tenn's rights as a parent.

Dove is a coalition of religious organizations, volunteers, and advocates that seeks to coordinate efforts to address unmet human needs and social injustices.
"Dove, Inc. changes the lives of approximately 5,000 people a year."


Wednesday, December 24, 2008



Published in the Sun, 19 Dec 2003


NOW again it's Christmas. We're all busy spending on our loved ones, our families and, most especially, our children.

In particular this is the children's festival. The time when a kind old man will slip down a chimney or slide down a roof and bring joy to your child - FATHER Christmas.

It is the special child's time because 2,000 years ago, the story tells us, a woman and a man had a baby together and though the man knew perfectly well he was not the child's father he nonetheless loved him and his wife and raised him to be strong, independent, brave and loving.

Lucky kid, to have Joseph for a dad. Indeed, were Jesus alive today, to have any dad at all to raise him to be a good man.

For those divorced men with children, Christmas is a travesty, a repulsive contradiction of a family holiday, of a loving celebration, of a special children's time.

These are the men who will be forced to be alone without their babies, who will commit suicide most frequently at this time of year in an age when male suicides are already 300 per cent greater than women's.

These are men who, in the eyes of what is sickeningly called Family Law, committed the greatest crime - of being divorced.

Men who are guilty of the worst sin - of being fathers - because dads, to the great dismay of the secret elite who sit in secret judgment in these secret courts are, shockingly, ALL men!

And men, as everyone knows, are monsters, feckless, abusive, aggressive, thuggish, incapable of such a hugely complex task of giving love and patience, cooking baked beans or giving a bath, doing homework or combing hair and reading stories.

It's a miracle any of us got here at all, us all having had dads and everything. This Christmas Eve we will say goodnight in our homes to our over-excited children, tell them to go to sleep quickly or HE won't come, prepare for the morning and have a quiet drink of pleasure before bed.

Yet there will be many fathers forbidden by the savagery of our laws to be with their children, standing broken, as I have, outside their old homes, the keys still in their pockets, weeping and whispering goodnight as they watch each child's bedroom light switch off before turning away, maddened with grief, to the pointlessness of a lonely Christmas Day. What have we become? In whose name is this brutality done? Who are they who do this and why do they not account to us, the people? What unthinking fools perpetrated these unlawful laws?

How is it in a child's interest to remove him from his dad and why? Two people fall from love and one, though having done no wrong, is semi-criminalised and punished by having his children removed from him for ever (for childhood is never recoverable).

The extremity of Family Law is bewildering, for having your children taken away from you is only one slight degree better than them taking away your freedom. And yet you are not a criminal, nor have you done any wrong.

These same people assume that women make better parents - that a mother's love is better, more important than a father's. That somehow it's bearable for a man to be parted from his children but not a woman.

Why? These assumptions and prejudices are not simply outdated but plain wrong, dangerous and damaging.

You only have to listen to the language that the law uses when it gets involved in our private lives. It's meant to be neutral but it is cold, deadening and hopeless. In fact it becomes heartbreaking, hurtful, rage-inducing. I cannot even say the words.

A huge emptiness would well in my stomach, a deep loathing for those who would deign to tell me they would ALLOW me ACCESS to my children - those I loved above all, those I created, those who gave meaning to everything I did, those who were the very best of us two and the absolute physical manifestation of our once blinding love.

Who the fuck are they that they should use the language of the prison visit to ALLOW anything between me and that which is mine?

REASONABLE CONTACT when the situation under this law is, by definition, UNreasonable!!! CONTACT? Is this what we had before in our home or am I now some visiting alien? An ABSENT parent - labelled by those who have forced me to be absent.

A RESIDENT/NON-RESIDENT parent - words that reduce the meaning of that which was once Mum, Dad and home to the sterile language of the state institution. I cannot begin to describe the pain of being handed a note, sanctioned by your (still) wife with whom you had made these little things, with whom you had been present at their birth and previously had felt grow and kick and tumble and turn and watched the scans and felt intense manly pride. Wrestled and played with them, walked them to school, picked them up, made tea with, bathed and dressed, put them to bed, cuddled and lay with in your arms and sang to sleep. Felt them and smelt them around you at all times, alert even in sleep to the slightest shift in their breathing ... a note that will ALLOW you ACCESS to these things who are the best of you.

What have you done? Why are you being punished (for that is what it seems)? How can she be allowed to dictate what I can or can't do with regard to MY children? What we must have is a new law. Not one remnant of this, quite literally, hopeless Children Act should remain. It is barbaric and will be looked upon with dismay and laughter by lawyers of future generations as we do now on old, outdated, medieval laws. We need a human law. A law that fits the way we live now. A way that reflects the differing versions of family that we have but that still generates love and kindness and compassion. A law that does not take away the happiness of the remaining years of our grandparents' lives and allows them to continue to contribute to our society by helping to raise our children. A law that lets mums be mothers and dads be fathers. Both nurturing, both loving their children, perhaps outwardly differently but inside with the same intensity and passion. Different but the same - an equality of difference. This new law must reflect exactly that.

I am asking that this new law will say at sentence one, paragraph one: "In the interests of children, upon separation they WILL be with both parents an equal amount of the time." They will be with their father 50 per cent of the time and their mother 50 per cent of the time." This is already being implemented in some countries and states and there doesn't seem to be any extraordinary or unusual problems with it. Of course, this arrangement will not suit some people but it does mean that the already overheated emotions of divorce are cooled slightly and, through discussion, a mutually acceptable arrangement can be arrived at without anger, bitterness or hatred. It may also help to stem our uniquely epidemic divorce rates. If both parents going into divorce know that they will only see their children half the time, that financial and housing arrangements are now less cut and dried, then maybe it will give them pause for thought.

That such a powerful newspaper as The Sun, motivated by its millions of readers and their letters of outrage (which I have seen) is now supporting this call for a new law for their readers' children and grandparents means that the country, its mothers, fathers, grandparents and most importantly its children, are ready. Before more men are driven to suicide or desperate brave acts to draw attention to their plight, before more children are taken from their dads, before another empty Christmas passes, let the Government stop their endless tinkering and discussions and begin its reform. On this, the most perfect of family holidays, let us hold in our hearts those small boys and girls who have wished and wished to Santa for only one thing this Christmas ... their dad.

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Santa is a Canadian Citizen ~ Official statement by Canadian Government

I was posting a comment to the National Post story on Santa being a Canadian Citizen and hadn't realized I was limited to 500 characters., A minuscule amount for such a profound topic being scribbled about by an Irish-Canadian imbued with copious quantities of written verbiage. So here is the rest. The column giving Santa Canadian citizenship is here.

I've always believed Santa was Canadian but of very special status. He is also warmly welcomed as a temporary citizen of beneficence and goodwill around the world.

After all he can be viewed as the main representative flowing out of Christs birth some 2008 years past but transcends one specific type of religion and has no problem in spreading his cheer and good will through out the whole world, not just one particular religion.

In other words Santa is not beset with the baggage of being "the one true representative of the one true religion" yet shows through his corporate mission statement that he believes in the golden rule which transcends everything.

He is a person of action and few words. My children now believe he is fictional but it was magic every Christmas morning when I could overhear their excited whispers - before getting me out of bed - about how this magical man got everything in the house so quietly.

I also will never forget the profound words of one of my 4 daughters as were driving to a store one December after I told them their older sister and her husband were coming to visit over Christmas. She said, "dad we must tell Santa that they are coming to see us so he will know to bring their presents to our house". I almost cried at her concern. I'll never forget her thoughtful comment to ensure her oldest sister and her brother-in-law would get their presents OK.

Santa is a magical creation and we need to afford him the benefits of Canadian citizenship with extensions to the rest of the world.

And he resides in a multicultural nation as well, what better choice for a world representative to live!

Monday, December 22, 2008

The Real Fathers For Justice ~ Christmas message

Mothers Have A Great Christmas, Yet Thousands Of Families Lives Are Destroyed, Protect Our Childrens’ Rights

WEBWIRE – Monday, December 22, 2008
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For some families, Christmas will be a devastating time, due to archaic UK laws, failing judges and because inadequate court systems fail to uphold the basic human right of children being able to spend adequate time with both their natural parents.

Children’s rights, as well as fathers rights are a very important issue and organisations such as The Real Fathers For Justice are leading the way to try and make a difference for the sake of our children.

Despite numerous studies and surveys illustrating the benefits of a child having access to both parents, many men in the UK still have to battle through courts just to see their sons or daughters.

This poses a serious welfare issue for the children concerned.

Some men have fought for nine years or more, yet still their court orders are not upheld, allowing the mother to ruin the lives of these innocent children. This is a clear indication that something is wrong with the UK family court systems.

Can you imagine how degrading it must be to have to seek a court’s permission just to see your own children?

There is an indication that things may be changing, an example is the recent speech by Jack Straw which is available at: but even so, there is a long way to go before fathers are treated as equal parents.

When we finally put our children’s rights first, things should change for the better, but until then, thousands of passionate fathers will have to battle for our children to grow up in a fairer and more humane society.

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Holidays hard on parents who lose custody disputes

Holidays hard on parents who lose custody disputes

Published December 18, 2008

By Isaac Olson • TLN

Though the holiday season can be a joyous time for many Canadian families, it can also be a time of sadness for those whose children are in the legal custody of the other parent.

Officials with Fathers 4 Justice (F4J) say the country has done little to encourage co-parenting and, as divorce and separation becomes a fact of life in modern times, the government's inaction is creating a detrimental situation that could and should be avoided for the betterment of children, parents and society as a whole.

The spirit of giving

F4J Canada has recently launched "Project Save Christmas" to help impoverished families celebrate the season while reviving the spirit of giving in those who are barred from spending the holidays with their children.

According to a F4J Canada press release, 40 per cent of children in poverty are in single-parent homes. F4J officials are encouraging members who are not allowed to give gifts to their own children to instead give to children in need. Officials are also encouraging members to write or e-mail Santa Claus to let him know that "all we want for Christmas is our children and equal parenting."

"Children are the spirit of Christmas for every parent," stated Kris Titus, the National Coordinator of F4J Canada. "When a parent loses a child, Christmas becomes a nightmare, not a joy. Most feel helpless and politicians aren't listening, so this year we will appeal to Santa himself."

The fight for co-parenting

"Co-parenting can be successful as long as long as both parents' goals are to do what is right for the child," said Titus. "The reason of divorce is to separate from that person, but not to separate children from that person. There are now more than one million children in Canada that were raised by only one parent."

Citing an approximate 125,000 Quebec fathers unable to see their 300,000 children, Daniel Laforest, president of F4J Quebec, agreed with Titus. In a society where divorce has evolved into an everyday occurrence, the custody laws have failed to catch up to skyrocketing separation rates, he said.

"With more women in the work force and divorce so much easier than it was 50 years ago, we have moved to another family concept that is not stabilized right now," said Laforest. "The justice system and laws are not synchronized or adapted to the new society. We are in a transitional period and, for now, the fathers are the biggest losers. The children, unable to live with their fathers and mothers, lose as well. It has dramatic consequences on our society."
Currently under court proceedings for a highflying protest in Toronto involving superhero-clad activists unfurling a banner from a crane, Titus, a mother of four boys, said she takes the fight for equal parenting very seriously.

Over the years, F4J has developed a reputation of civil disobedience as organizers work to inform the public of their message. This passion is derived from a desire to see their children as well as an urgent need to change current laws — laws they say have yet to improve.
"I certainly wouldn't be getting myself arrested and potentially going to jail if I had seen any improvements," said Titus.

Societal impact

Laforest and Titus both linked the increase in children raised by one parent to the recent spikes in gangs, juvenile delinquency, high school dropouts, depression and other social issues. Children raised solely by one parent are more prone to trouble for a variety of reasons that range from poverty to a lack of proper guidance, explained Titus.

While children watch one parent get stonewalled and the other working long hours to fill the economic hole left by the separation, they often become confused, angry and, at times, delinquent, said Titus. When parents combat each other in court battles that sometimes take years, she said, children are exposed to negative life lessons that often damage social skills.

Laforest, who made an unsuccessful bid for Montreal's Laurier-Sainte-Marie riding in last October's federal election, said he has faith the laws will, with time, change to include more shared custody but, until that happens, it is vital to society that people fight for equal parenting. As it stands, his organization has over 2,000 supporters working to educate the public and change the legal system, he said.

"The best solution is to not have divorce," said Laforest. "But when divorce happens, the best solution is to give both the mother and father access to the children."

For the Sake of the Children

This year represents another milestone in family law. Dec. 9 marked the 10th Anniversary of the "For the Sake of the Children" report that recommended shared parenting as well as 47 other recommendations to improve family law in Canada. These recommendations, however, have yet to been implemented, states the F4J website.

"We never had a conclusion in respect to these recommendations over the last 10 years," said Laforest. "This has created a dramatic situation across Quebec, the country and the world. As a human a problem, it is probably the worst because of the effect on the children. We can't build a society where the fathers fight against the mothers and the mothers fight against the fathers for the children."

National Child Day

Canada's National Child Day, held on Nov. 20, was enacted in 1993 to pay tribute to the country's children while recognizing the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child. The Convention, which Canada is party to, spells out the basic human rights to which the world's children are entitled.

"I don't think Canada respects the principle of National Child Day nor the resolution," said Laforest.

The day should be used to recognize children, said Titus, but Canada has yet to do anything that officially acknowledges the country's youth. For now, her organization has dubbed it "National Childless Day."

"If Canada is truly committed to helping kids, the country needs to take a hard look at the parenting structure," said Titus, who noted that, besides their hope of 50/50 co-parenting across Canada, her organization would like, at the very least, to see a federal law that stipulates a higher court, not the family court, declare whether a parent is fit for the job.


According to Statistics Canada, custody is granted through court proceedings in three out of every 10 divorces. In the remaining divorces, couples arrived at custody arrangements outside the divorce proceedings or they did not have kids.

In 2002, Canada saw, for the first time, less than 50 per cent of mothers getting total custody. Of the 35,000 dependents for whom custody was determined through divorce proceedings in 2002, the custody of 49.5 per cent was awarded to the wife. The proportion of dependents awarded to mothers has declined steadily since 1988, when women were awarded custody 75.8 per cent of the time. In contrast, 41.8 per cent of 2002 cases resulted in joint custody.

Under a joint custody arrangement, children do not necessarily spend equal amounts of time with each parent, argues Titus. Often one parent, most commonly the father, is squeezed out of the picture by being allotted, for example, only one night a week with his kid(s), she said.

These statistics fail to cover unwed parents, which, Titus observed, is a whole other problem. When unmarried parents separate, she said, fathers are not protected under federal laws. While each province has its own laws in place, separated unwed fathers can potentially face an uphill legal battle when it comes to parenting. Often times they aren't even recognized on the birth certificate, said Titus, and therefore they have no rights to the child.

"We are going in the wrong direction," said Laforest. "We are destroying the image of fathers and creating a situation where there is no place for them in our culture. We have only one way to think in our Quebec society: women are victims and men are guilty people. We need to change that."

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Two Fathers 4 Justice campaigners have been given a suspended sentence

Rye & Battle Observer

Fathers spared jail over Harman roof protest

Published Date: 18 December 2008

Two Fathers 4 Justice campaigners, including one from Herefordshire, who scaled Harriet Harman's roof dressed as superheroes have been given a suspended sentence.
Anthony Ashby, 43, from Ledbury, and Nigel Ace, 40, were also banned from climbing on any roof other than their own without express permission from the householder.

Leader of the Commons Ms Harman and her husband, Jack Dromey, were woken at just after 6am on July 9 this year by the pair, who were dressed as Spiderman and Batman, City of Westminster Magistrates' Court heard..

The court heard that Ms Harman and her husband installed extra security after the incidents and no longer felt as secure in their home.

Ashby, a painter and decorator from Skippe Close, Ledbury, denied the charge but, representing himself during the trial, he told the court he had no defence. He was given a five-week sentence suspended for two years.

Ace, a former sales manager from Deer Mead, Clevedon, in Somerset, admitted disorderly behaviour likely to cause harassment and failing to come down from the roof when asked to do so by police. He was given a four-week sentence suspended for two years.

Both men were ordered to obey a curfew between 8pm and 5am until January 5. They must also each pay £100 compensation to the victims and £100 in costs.

On Thursday, Ashby told the court: "I wanted to exercise my right to protest while the family laws in this country are unjust."

But the court also heard that Ace now realised that it was wrong to stage a demonstration on the roof of a private house and is no longer a member of F4J.

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Wednesday, 17th December 2008

Father guilty over Harman roof protest

Published Date: 17 December 2008

A Fathers 4 Justice campaigner who dressed as Batman to invade the roof of Harriet Harman's London home has been warned he could face a prison sentence.

The protest by Anthony Ashby, 43, was "very distressing" to the house's inhabitants and forced the Leader of the Commons to move out not, knowing when her family could return home, a judge heard.

Ashby, a self-employed painter and decorator from Skippe Close, Ledbury, Herefordshire, denied disorderly behaviour likely to cause harassment and failing to come down from the roof when told to do so by police.

District Judge Emma Arbuthnot, sitting at City of Westminster Magistrates' Court, found him guilty of both charges concerning the home of the Labour MP for Camberwell and Peckham.

Judge Arbuthnot told him: "I'm leaving all options open. I haven't decided what I'm going to do with you yet, I haven't excluded custody."

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Father to learn fate over Harman roof protest

Published Date: 17 December 2008

A Fathers 4 Justice campaigner from Somerset who admitted dressing as Spiderman to invade Harriet Harman's roof will learn his fate later this week.

Nigel Ace, 40, a former sales manager from Deer Mead, Clevedon, admitted disorderly behaviour likely to cause harassment and failing to come down from the roof of the London home when told to do so by police.

He was joined in the protest by Anthony Ashby, 43, a self-employed painter and decorator from Skippe Close, Ledbury, Herefordshire, who had denied the charges.

But District Judge Emma Arbuthnot, sitting at City of Westminster Magistrates' Court, found him guilty of both charges.

She told him: "I'm leaving all options open. I haven't decided what I'm going to do with you yet. I haven't excluded custody."

The protest was "very distressing" to the house's inhabitants and forced the Leader of the House of Commons to move out not knowing when her family could return home, a judge heard.

Ashby, who dressed at Batman, argued in court that he had not distressed the politician and her husband, the union leader Jack Dromey.

He said: "I don't think he was distressed at all - probably annoyed, but not distressed. Like I say, he's a man of the unions, so he's a stronger man than that."

Georgina Nicholas, prosecuting, said Ace and Ashby "flatly refused" to come down from the roof, turning their backs on police and ignoring officers.

The court heard Ace told police Ms Harman needed to engage in debate, saying: "She's ignoring us and that is why we are here again. If not we want Gordon Brown to come down - no messing about."

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Project Save Christmas ~ Fathers 4 Justice Canada

from Mike Murphy
toSanta Claus hohoho@northpole.merrychristmas>

date16 December 2008
subjectProject Save Christmas

December 16, 2008

H0H 0H0

Dear Santa:

Project Save Christmas:

Three and a half years ago on June 8, 2005 my children were torn from me and I did not find them for 7 months. Christmas in 2005 was the loneliest day of my life. I cried and cried for their presence but it was not to happen.

For the past 3.5 years, due to the winner-take-all adversarial “no fault” court process I have been fighting to regain my equality as a parent in their lives. It is a very expensive process that is not yet over and the only winners will be the lawyers who keep bringing their customers to court instead of doing the right thing and keeping both parents in the children’s lives on an equal basis.

I will be living below the poverty line after it is all over and likely be homeless.

Equality by definition means just that except in our family court. Instead of the best interest of the children it is confrontation after confrontation through the court to win back the God given gift of fatherhood and parenthood that my government has taken away from me to the detriment of the health and well being of my children. All studies point to the fact children do far better in all situations when both parents remain in their lives equally.

Ten years ago, on December 9, 1998 a report was filed to the then Liberal Government of Mr. Chr├ętien entitled “For the sake of the Children”. It can be viewed here.

In it was recommended a new way of dealing with the end of marriage by which there would be a presumption of shared parenting. Australia introduced it in 2006 and some U.S. states have added it since, including Florida on October 1, 2008. Canada has not acted on this recommendation.

The spirit of Christmas is being eroded from the lives of thousands of families and I would wish you to help bring about changes to give us Equal and Shared Parenting for all affected Mom’s and Dad’s for Christmas. It will help to bring some joy back to this wonderful celebration of giving and that is indeed in the best interest of our children.

Michael Murphy cid:000a01c705ad$0add39e0$6400a8c0@mikeA2GJRT6TF9
A sad but optimistic dad.
Fathers 4 Justice
Sault Ste. Marie ON P6A6J8

cc Stephen Harper,Michael Ignatieff,David Orazietti (MPP);Sault Star;Dalton McQuinty;Craig Perdue (Rogers Radio);Tony Martin (MP)

Monday, December 15, 2008

Proposed Tennessee Shared Parenting Legislation

I'm not certain if Representative Hardaway will be successful with this bill but it is proposed for the January/09 session of the Tennessee State Legislature. I wish him good luck. Too bad we don't have more like him willing to take on the status quo. He apparently also suggested all babies be tested for paternity. Even some so-called right wing bloggers were apparently offended. Interesting the variability with some Tennessee right wingers.

By Hardaway
AN ACT to amend Tennessee Code Annotated, Title 36,
Chapter 6, Part 1, to enact the “Equal and Fair
Parenting Act”.


SECTION 1. This act shall be known, and may be cited, as the “Equal and Fair Parenting Act”.

SECTION 2. Tennessee Code Annotated, Section 36-6-101(a)(2)(A)(i), is amended by deleting the current language in its entirety and by substituting instead the following:

(i) Except as provided in this subdivision (a)(2)(A), the court shall have the widest discretion to order a custody arrangement that is in the best interest of the child.

Unless the court finds by a preponderance of evidence to the contrary, or where the parents have agreed to a different custody arrangement, at a hearing for the purpose of determining the custody of the minor child, there shall be a rebuttable presumption that equally shared parenting is in the best interest of the child. For the purpose of assisting the court in making a determination whether an award of equitably-shared parenting is inappropriate, the court may direct that an investigation be conducted. The burden of proof necessary to modify an order of shared parenting at a subsequent proceeding shall be by a preponderance of the evidence.

SECTION 3. This act shall take effect upon becoming a law, the public welfare requiring it.

Take A Time Out Dad and enjoy this Commercial - Especially if you have a Daughter - Does it bring back memories

Sunday, December 14, 2008

Real F4J create big stink in UK Family Court Labour Union

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Mike Murphy, Sault Ste. Marie, ON, Canada says...
4:54pm Sun 14 Dec 08

Good for F4J. The conspiracy within Family Courts causes great distress to Dads and these workers are part and parcel of an oppressive system that stinks to high heaven.

What a metaphor. Excellent work lads.

Arrests after fathers' rights 'fart gas attack'

By James McKeigue

TWO people, one of them a 41-year-old man from Epsom, have been arrested following a "fart gas attack" by fathers' rights campaigners on trade union offices in south London.

The Real Fathers For Justice group confirmed it targeted the premises of Napo - the trade union for family court staff - claiming those that support the family laws system "stink".

The Metropolitan Police said officers were called to Chivalry Road, Clapham, at 1pm on Friday.

A spokeswoman said: "Two arrests were made... two men, 41 and 44-years-old, were bailed to return for questioning at a later date.

"Nobody was injured," she added.

Real Fathers For Justice spokesman Mike Kelly said: "We attacked this union because we wanted to get the message across that the biased family laws system and those that support it stink."

He also promised more fathers' rights protests in the future.

Saturday, December 13, 2008

Keeping father in Christmas ~ Well done Fathers4Christmas

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Keeping father in Christmas


SINGING Santas have been striving to keep the father in Christmas with a protest outside Burton County Court.

News - Fathers 4 Justice protest in Burton The members of Fathers 4 Justice, many of whom are "victims of failing family law", sang doctored carols highlighting the 'injustice' of the fact that one in four children will not see their dad this Christmas.

Among the festive tunes were Deck The Judge For He Is Biased and Tis The Season To Free Jolly - an ode to Jolly Stainsby, an activist recently jailed for climbing on cainet member Harriet Harman's roof.

Protester Fraser Chatburn, a father of one from Branston, said: "We're here today to highlight the need for the father to be kept in Christmas and throughout a child's life."

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Judge unsympathetic to Jolly's (F4J) Appeal


Jonathan "Jolly" Stanesby

Fathers' activist fails to overturn conviction

Thursday, December 11, 2008, 10:00
A FATHERS' rights campaigner who launched a rooftop protest at the home of Labour deputy leader Harriet Harman has failed in his bid to have his conviction overturned.
Jonathan "Jolly" Stanesby, 43, of Manor Close, Ivybridge, South Devon, dressed as Superman and clambered onto the flat of the three-storey house in Herne Hill, South East London with fellow Fathers4Justice protester Mark Harris, 49, in June.

The pair draped a banner over the wall reading "Father's are for life, not just for conception" and demanded a meeting with the former Solicitor General.

Harris, of Elford Crescent, Plympton, told police he wanted the Leader of the Commons to read his book the about the injustice he felt fathers faced in the family courts.

Stanesby, who has a daughter, ignored repeated requests to come down from the roof on June 8.
He was convicted of "contravening a police direction" and harassment after a trial at City of Westminster Magistrates Court last month.

The qualified childminder, who did not come down until the next afternoon, was ordered to serve a two-month prison sentence, fined £250 and told to pay £500 in costs.

Harris was found guilty of harassment and handed a conditional discharge and told to pay £500 in costs.

Stanesby challenged his conviction for not following a police constable's orders on the grounds that he had been on the phone and had not heard what was being asked of him.

He told Southwark Crown Court he was not harassing the MP or her trade unionist husband Jack Dromey, 60, because they were not at home.

Stanesby told the court: "We had attempted to speak to Mrs Harman as a group and Mark had written to her and his daughters had written to her.

"She refused to talk to us. I had tried all the conventional methods to talk to somebody and none of them are interested."

Stanesby, who has been fighting for equal custody rights to his daughter since 2003, said he thought scaling the roof of the MPs property would "highlight the issue to the general public" and get rid of the "shroud of secrecy in family courts".

Rejecting Stanesby's appeal, Judge James Wadsworth said: "As a result of them being there and the police being called, something of a crowd gathered and eventually Mrs Harman and her husband left."

Stanesby also lost the appeal against his sentence and the judge also upheld an Asbo banning him from trespassing on private property.

Fathers campaigner fails to overturn conviction for Herne Hill home stunt

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A fathers’ rights protestor who was jailed for two months after scalingdeputy Labour leader Harriet Harman’s Herne Hill home dressed as asuper hero has failed in his bid to have his conviction overturned.
John Paul Stanesby, 43, a qualified childminder from south Devon,along with fellow protestor Mark Harris, spent more than 24 hours onthe roof of the cabinet minister's home in Winterbrook Road on June 8.

Dressed as superheroes "Captain Conception" and "Cash Gordon" theprotestors from campaign group Fathers 4 Justice unfurled a banner froma bedroom window reading "A Father is for life, not just conception".

The campaigners said they intended to remain at the property untilthe minister read Mark Harris's book, Family Court Hell, and theGovernment started dialogue with the campaign group about doing more toprotect fathers in the family courts.

Last month Stanesby, who was found guilty of causing distress andalarm and refusing to obey a police officer, was jailed for two months,fined £250 and ordered to pay £500 costs at City of WestminsterMagistrates’ Court
At Southwark Crown Court on Wednesday, he challenged his convictionand sentence saying he had been on the phone and had not heard what wasbeing asked of him by police.

But Judge James Wadsworth rejected his appeals and upheld an Asbo banning him from trespassing on private property.

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Ignatieff blames Liberals for family break ups

1-888-F4J Canada

Press release

Contact: Kris Titus
Phone: 1-888-345-2262 ext. 704

December 10, 2008

For Immediate Release December 10, 2008

Ignatieff blames Liberals for family break ups
Fathers 4 Justice Canada is hoping his 2002 book, the Rights Revolution, gives some insight into the man who now leads the Liberal Party in the House of Commons.

With statements like, "As a father, I find it hard not to be pained by the statistics of modern fatherhood and divorce in Canada: Mothers get custody in 86% cases, and more than 40% of children in Canada's divorced families see their fathers only once a month."
"These are sensible and overdue suggestions, and the fact that they're being made shows that men and women are struggling to correct the rights revolution, so that equality works for everyone," in reference to custody and access being replaced by shared parenting after the 1998 For the Sake of the Children report.

He goes on to say that the Liberals must shoulder some of the blame for family break up and they must 'face up to their responsibilities'.

"We couldn't agree more," says Kris Titus, National Coordinator for Fathers 4 Justice Canada. "Mr. Ignatieff and Mr. Harper may just provide the perfect balance to finally help Canada's children of divorce who are suffering so badly without both their parents."

A Fathers 4 Justice member who attended candidate debates during the election says Michael reaffirmed this stand when he asked him if his opinions had changed on shared parenting since his book to which Mr. Ignatieff replied, "No".

" My question obviously prompted him to remember the pain he felt about his children and after the meeting he came over to me and thanked me for asking the question," says the Fathers 4 Justice supporter in is report to F4J Head Office.

Fathers 4 Justice Canada has many supporters who reside in Mr. Ignatieff's riding.

"Oh yes, he can expect some kind of meeting invitation from us," says Titus, "We don't like lip service from politicians as Mr. Layton could attest."

The group has an entire section devoted to Ignatieff on their website at:

CONTACT: Nationally, Kris Titus 1-888-F4J Canada
( 1-888-345-2262 ) ext. 704

National Website for more information about Fathers 4 Justice Canada:

National Action website:

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Fathers 4 Justice Tops in Protester Grouping by BBC's Andrew Neil

Fathers 4 Justice made the top 5 on Andrew Neil’s Daily Politics. Neil is on BBC in the UK and gave a ranking to protesters.

Real Fathers 4 Justice UK ~ Simon Anderton's trial by jury - One week away

09 December 2008: Simon Anderton's trial by jury - One week away

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Posted by: Toon
Simon Anderton

Tyne Bridge protester Simon Anderton full trial date will take place on 10am Tuesday 16th December 2008 at Newcastle Quayside Crown Court
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The trial is expected to last 4-5 days.

Simon spent 63 hours on the Tyne Bridge with little shelter, this fathers day protest in June was to highlight the suicides caused by broken contact orders and for every child denied access to a parent.

Please turn up and support Simon at the trial - supporter accommodation requests to

Song for Simon

Sent to us from Garry a loyal N/E supporter and accomplished acoustic musician, he penned this song after meeting Tyne bridge protester Simon Anderton.

Garry said "Meeting Simon had a profound affect on me, I couldn't climb a bridge and thought what could I do instead?"

"Simon's bravery and determination to publicise the cause inspired me to write this song, I have been playing it live at my gigs and it has been going down well"

"If work commitments allow I also plan to play this live outside the court at Simon Anderton's trial in December"

For the Sake of the Children ~ 10 Years of Dust

1-888-F4J Canada

Press release

Contact: Kris Titus
Phone: 1-888-345-2262 ext. 704

December 9, 2008

For Immediate Release December 9, 2008

Anniversaries usually represent happy times of remembrance.
This day, however, marks one of the saddest days in our history.
On December 9th 1998, the Government of Canada released the For the Sake of the Children Report on Custody and Access recommending an overall shift towards shared parenting rights for children and parents of divorce, now backed by 10 years of significant public support.
Sounds like a cause for celebration, right?
The box is empty, full of empty promises, empty hearts, empty lives and empty cries of the children of divorce.
The Government of Canada has knowingly and wilfully turned their back on Canada's children for the past 10 years, keeping them at great risk for all kinds of pitfalls. So whose "best interests" does the government serve?
Maybe in another 10 years, we will actually have an Anniversary worth celebrating with our children because they are the winners, not the prizes.
In the meantime, will the decent politicians please stand up!
CONTACT: Nationally, Kris Titus 1-888-F4J Canada
( 1-888-345-2262 ) ext. 704

National Website for more information about Fathers 4 Justice Canada:

National Action website:

Monday, December 8, 2008

Benoit Leroux ~ Father 4 Justice Quebec goes to trial


"Robin" who climbed Jacques-Cartier Bridge tries to avoid being caged

Mon, 2008-12-08 17:14.
Shuyee Lee

He says he climbed the Jacques-Cartier Bridge because he loves his children and he felt he was getting a raw deal before the courts.

A trial started today for one of the members of fathers' rights group Fathers 4 Justice.

Batman's sidekick Robin - whose real identity in this case is Benoit Leroux - was nabbed in May 2005 after he allegedly scaled the Jacques-Cartier Bridge, perched on top of the superstructure and unfurled a banner for Fathers 4 Justice. He was dressed up like the superhero.

It was a chilly Victoria Day holiday and the attention-getting stunt for fathers' rights in custody battles held up traffic for several hours.

While the Montreal Boy Wonder upset a lot of motorists that day, Leroux says they're pleading legitimate defence during a trial scheduled to last a week.

"It was the only possible way to do it because we'll have witnesses (..) telling how hard and how they were not able to be heard even in the media."

Leroux faces charges of mischief, obstruction of justice and conspiracy.

As for the Robin schtick, he says he wore the costume because the group believes that the real superheroes to children are their parents, arguing for changes to child custody and access laws that they say are biased against fathers.

Father involvement and effort equals better, more intelligent children


Time with dad is time well spent 


When picking out that perfect Father's Day gift next year, sons and daughters might want to look to their own accomplishments before deciding between a gaudy polyester tie or splurging on a new set of golf clubs.
The more effort a father invests in his children, the smarter they are as kids and more successful as adults, new research shows. And highly educated fathers make even more of a difference than less educated dads, all things being equal.

"It's not [just] about having dad around, it's about what kind of dad he is," says Daniel Nettle, a psychologist at the University of Newcastle, UK, who led the new analysis, based on surveys of more than 10,000 children over half a century.

Nettle used the National Child Development Study, which traces the lives of every Briton born between 3 and 9 March, 1958. Surveys taken in the 1960s and 70s asked mothers to rate the father's involvement in his child, from "inapplicable" to "equal to the mother". These and later surveys through 2005 tracked intelligence, income, and education of the participants.
Nettle has previously used the same data set to show that wealthy men father more children than paupers.
With paternal investment, however, time seemed to be the most important currency. At age 11, children of highly involved fathers boasted markedly higher IQs than children with less present dads. "This is not half a point, this is a few points of IQ, on average," he says.

Sons over daughters

Nettle also found that highly educated and successful fathers get more bang for their buck, compared with uneducated and working class men. All things being equal, fathers of high socioeconomic status gave children a small extra boost with their attention than less affluent fathers.
However, this effect did not last through middle age. At 42, the children of super-dads were no more socially mobile than other children - regardless of the father's education level or profession.
Sons enjoyed more of a boost than daughters, possibly because men face more hurdles in climbing the social ladder than women, Nettle speculates. This could be one reason why fathers tended to invest more time in sons, than daughters.

Robert Quinlan, a biocultural anthropologist at Washington State University in Pullman, says the study breaks new ground in showing the benefits of having a father around - especially an affluent one.
Quinlan wonders, though, whether discrepancies in a father's socioeconomic status make a real-world difference, rather than a statistical one, detectable only in large-scale surveys. "How much would you pay to get a half a point of IQ," he asks.
Journal reference: Evolution and Human Behavior(DOI: 10.1016/j.evolhumbehav.2008.06.002)

Sunday, November 30, 2008

Is Australian Share Parenting in Jeopardy

My comments on an Australian newspaper site discussing comments by the Ozzy Attorney General on equal parenting.

"What a shame if equality of parent hood becomes another gift horse for petulant feminists. Hopefully the examination will be done without feminist interference by impartial representatives. So far it appears the problem is one manufactured by the media whose slant seems to be in favour of mothers at the expense of fathers.

The judge who quit is a "quitter". No more no less. Those who want to make something work do not give up the fight.

A fairly famous American named Teddy Roosevelt once said "It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again ... and who, at the worst, if he fails at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat."

Equal parenting for divorced couples may be scrapped

Article from: The Courier-Mail

Matthew Fynes-Clinton
November 30, 2008 11:00pm

THE controversial and "distressing" equal-time parenting laws for divorcedcouples could be overhauled, the federal Attorney-General says.

Robert McClelland said some shared-parenting orders that followed relationship breakdowns were "clearly not appropriate and (were) causing extreme distress for children and their parents".
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Last month, The Courier-Mail highlighted the problems in a series of reports on the family law system.

"I'm very aware of media reports and research about the 2006 reforms," Mr McClelland said. "In particular, I have read reports about the impact on children of some parenting orders favouring significant sharing of parenting time.

"I assure you that I appreciate the seriousness of all I am hearing ... and that we will be mindful of these views when it comes to formulating new policies and making possible amendments to legislation."

Mr McClelland made the remarks during a recent Women's Legal Service family law forum in

He confirmed that the Australian Institute of Family Studies,a government statutory authority, had begun a "comprehensive empirical assessment" of how families were faring under the shared parenting regime.

The Family Law Amendment (Shared Parental Responsibility) Act was introduced by the Howard government in 2006 to rectify perceived unfairness in custody orders and assuage concerns about the impact of absent fathers.

The changes direct trial judges and magistrates in the federal family law courts to "presume" that "equal shared parental responsibility" is in the best interests of children.

This means separating parents are legally bound to jointly attempt to make major decisions on their children's welfare, such as those about health and education. Fifty-50 parenting time is not automatic.

But when shared responsibility is imposed (child abuse or family violence cancels the presumption), the courts are required to consider a further order that a child spend equal time with each of the parents.

In the Courier-Mail reports, Brisbane former Family Court Judge Tim Carmody, family lawyers, academics and child psychologists said the laws were emotionally damaging children, many of whom lived week-about between the homes of highly conflicted parents.

Saturday, November 29, 2008

My father, my hero ~ David Warren The Ottawa Citizen

My father, my hero

David Warren
The Ottawa Citizen

An old man I know told me how he became a Roman Catholic, after an upbringing that would perhaps have better fitted him to become some sort of "humanist." He was young, at the rebellious age, and weighted more with questions than with answers. His relation with his father was tense and difficult, perhaps creatively so. His father died, and his world shattered. The inadequate Christian faith he had absorbed in childhood was tested, against grief, and found wanting.

On the question of weight, a lady I know said, "I remember when my father died, it felt like someone weighing five hundred pounds was sitting on my chest." People may do strange things under such circumstances. But usually they are muffled, quiet.

The man began sitting at the back of Catholic churches, during Mass. He needed something to do with all his time. Those were the days when the old Tridentine Mass was available everywhere; was the bond that held Catholics together. He did not go to church to look at the Catholics, he went as a spectator of that Mass. He was a young man with a classical education, and some poetry in his soul: he wanted to hear the Latin words and the music. (To this day, people who are not even slightly Catholic go to concerts, and buy CDs, to hear the old Mass ordinary -- because it has been set, gloriously and repeatedly, by so many of the world's greatest musical composers, over so many centuries.)
Went to hear, and inevitably, went to think, while the words of the Mass were sung for him, from the invocation of the Kyrie, a text old as the Psalms if not older: "Lord have mercy."

From one Mass, he was drawn curiously to another, until in due course his diverse thoughts organized themselves into a single thought. And that thought was: "This is the only thing that is equal to my father's death."

I learned of this when my own father died, the Sunday before last.

In much different circumstances: he was quite old, and I'm well into middle age; I'd already done my converting. Even when young, I never rebelled against my father, was never tempted to do so. I remember him as my hero from the age of two or three, and in all the half-century since I cannot remember a time at which he was not my hero. The reader may wonder at this, but I came from a very good home, with exemplary parents, and even an adoring little sister.

My mother by her own account "lucked out." Luck comes most often to the brave, however, for she married the man among her many suitors who had the poorest prospects: a young veteran of the war -- a daring young flyboy -- who may have looked splendid in his officer's uniform, but was now in a tuberculosis hospital. And worse, if he ever got out: some kind of artist. (He became a pioneering and accomplished industrial designer, but first he had to learn that trade.) She might have enjoyed great wealth and security, but she married for love and damn the torpedoes.

Now she is an ancient widow, in a nursing home, cherishing every remembered moment from more than 60 years of marriage to a man who was also her hero.

It is from raw, and prolonged experience that one learns what family means, and through it of the awesome power of love, reaching beyond the grave. But these are things that can never be communicated to outsiders. Each family is its own country, with its own culture, its own language, its own mythology, its own universe.

I've mentioned my father before in these columns, over the years, especially in November, around Remembrance Day -- both him, and his father, who went up Vimy Ridge, for Canada in France. They were warriors in their youth, but each in his turn a man for all seasons.

The family extends in space and time. I opened my father's pilot log, and found a photograph in it of him at the age of 19, at the controls of some aircraft I cannot identify. I was taken aback, for in the first glance I thought it was my elder son: the same insouciant look on the face, and the face itself bearing the family resemblance. It took me a moment to get the timeline straight: this is not my son, it is my father. My father.

David Warren's column appears Sunday, Wednesday and Saturday.
© The Ottawa Citizen 2008

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